Hi and Happy New Year!

I hope you had super duper holidays and you are all set for the New Year!

Do you make New Year's Resolutions?

I used to make them, and fail at them and then I would tweak them and every year I would make them more in tune with my true goals.

This year I changed my resolutions again. I have one and only one resolution - to love myself more.

Why? Because I realized that ALL of my problems can be taken care of when I do just this one thing.

After contemplating on it for a while, I believe that most, if not all problems of our society come from the lack of love. We are taught from a very young age that we are sinners, flawed creatures, that we are not worthy, etc, etc. Please note here that we are NOT BORN like that, those beliefs are trained into us.

Of course love is the word that is being thrown around a lot, so to make sure we are on the same page here is what I mean by love.

Love is unconditional acceptance, a generous amount of delight in your own existence and also genuine concern for your own wellbeing.

If you love yourself, you won't need willpower because you will do everything you need to do out of love.

You will not need to put yourself on strict diets designed by someone else, because you will take time and care to learn to listen to your own body. Your body will tell you exactly what it needs, when and how much. You will not need the willpower for that, just like you don't need the willpower to feed your kids, or pets. You will do it out of love and genuine care.

You will not need a strict schedule for going to the gym because when you love yourself you will move your body in ways that are joyful, supportive and sustainable. You might still go to the gym if you love it, but if you prefer hiking outside, you will go hiking and you will do that without an ounce of regret or need to force yourself.

When you genuinely love yourself, your relationships will change because you will stop looking for love out there. You will stop consciously or unconsciously begging for love from other people. You will literally see that you are the one you have been looking for all this time. You will not need anything from anyone anymore. It doesn't mean that you will be alone, all it means is that people will lose power over you and the "wrong" relationships will fall off because they won't be able to suck the life out of you anymore. The "right" relationships will stay and will naturally start to blossom because you release the other person from the obligation that they can't fulfill, you will let yourself be who you are and you will let them be themselves.

When you love yourself your relationship with work will change. You will stop doing things that burn you out and you will take time to get to know yourself and you will find activities that are interesting to you. And when that happens, the money will take care of itself. It doesn't mean that all your hobbies will suddenly become money makers, but what it does mean is that you will find alignment with your own unique gifts and talents and from that you will be able to find a place where other people will also see the value in what you do and that's how money comes.

When you love yourself, your confidence will go through the roof, not because you will stop making mistakes but because you will have your own back. In fact, you will make more mistakes because you will finally start taking action, learning and trying new things again and again.

When you love yourself, you will stop engaging in activities that numb you (too much TV, shopping, overeating, drinking, etc name your own vice here). Instead you will lean into the discomfort and you will want to get to know yourself better. You will listen and learn what makes you tick, what makes you come alive, what brings you joy, what peaks your curiosity, what makes you happy.

When you love yourself your business stops being transactional because you no longer need validation from others. You do your thing because you love doing it and it brings you joy to share your gifts with others (i.e. serve). It is not self-sacrifice, it is an act of joy. Yes, of course the energy exchange happens, but when you love yourself, that energy exchange has a different feeling, different vibration, if you will.

When you love yourself, you will put your own happiness as your top priority, just like you probably already prioritise the happiness of your kids.

Love is the key.

Love is the answer to all your prayers.

Self - love is the key to remembering who you are.

When you love yourself you realise that suffering is simply a map of places where you are not aligned with love and you take charge and you go and take care of yourself.

And why do I write all of this to you? Because for four long years I was trying to understand how to explain to you what I do. I have called myself a life coach, happiness coach, authenticity coach, career coach, confidence coach... and even though all those words are true, they never captured the essence of what I do. Now, I finally have some words that might summarize what I do - I teach people how to love themselves. Because honestly and truly, love is the answer to all your troubles.

If you are interested to work 1:1 with me, hit reply and say the word LOVE.

Whether you choose to work with me or not, I sincerely wish you to find more love towards yourself.

I love you.

I mean it.

Nataliya