I often say that when you align to your own energy blueprint, everything clicks. The body feels better and more relaxed, the stress levels go down, the emotions become friends with helpful messages instead of scary monsters, the mind stops looking in the outside world for answers and instead it turns inwards and finally finds the inner peace that it's been looking for all this time....

What I mean by energy blueprint is your authenticity. And because I am a stickler for words, I went to my Oxford dictionary, which says that "authenticity is the quality of being authentic. And being authentic means - known to be true or genuine". Thanks Oxford dictionary, but I think we can do better.

I decided to look at google AI overview and here's what it said: To be authentic is to be true to your own personality, values, and spirit, by aligning your outward actions with your inner self. It means being genuine, sincere, and not false or imitation, and it involves acting in accordance with your beliefs and goals, even when faced with pressure to act differently.

So, who are we?

Who am I?

Spiritual traditions have talked about the Law of Oneness for thousands of years. But now we don't have to blindly believe it. We have quantum physics that essentially says the same thing with different set of words. We can talk about atoms being mede of 99.99% of space, we can talk about double slit experiment where particles can be waves of particles depending whether someone is watching them or not. But I said I would make it practical, so let's be practical.

I think we can agree that we all arrive to this world with certain set of energies. There's no child that is like another. We all seem to have our own set of personalities, core values, or, as my friend Laura Lavigne calls them, Core Essences. And we need to be connected to those Core Essences in order to thrive.

For example, some of my Core Essences are Freedom, Fun, Purpose, Growth, Connection, Vitality, Joy.

When I am connected to those energies in my daily life, I feel very good, I feel content and at peace and things tend to click. And even when I encounter difficulties (which we all do and that is part of the adventure of life), I can still feel vitality inside of me.

However, when I look outwards and follow the guidance of "I should do this", when I try to push for something that I am supposed to have or do or push for, everything falls apart, I find myself in burnout, sad and on a verge of breaking point. As an example, long time ago, before I knew anything about Core Essences, when I was a kid, I wanted to be a doctor. And even though I believed then that the usual order of life cycle didn't make sense to me (you know - go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, retire, die), I allowed adults to talk me out of going to med school and went to a business school instead. Fast forward, I got a job in a prestigious firm and from outside things looked great. Unfortunately, being stuck in an office all day long, no place to grow, sucked me out of joy and vitality all together. I also found no real purpose in the work itself. It was a disaster. Eventually I quit and it took me 5 months to recover.

The reason I was so burnt out was not because I couldn't do the work. I could. But I was literally deprived of all the Core Essences that I needed in order to thrive. It was like putting a tropical plant into the dark winter behind the polar circle, I wasn't meant to thrive in that environment.

But slowly, like a plant reaching towards the light, I was reaching for more Freedom, Purpose and Joy. I learnt more about what is important to me and started to make more aligned choices. And the more of those aligned choices I made, the more satisfying my life has become. Now I can work all day and into the night and it doesn't burn me out because I love what I do and it doesn't feel like work. The more I turn my gaze from what I am supposed to want and do to what I actually want, the better it becomes. And it is like that not only in my work. It goes the same way in my parenting (I can write a whole big story about that too). The same with my relationships.

When I was young, the adults convinced me that if I was to become an accountant, I would be safe, stable, I would always have a job and therefore I would be OK. It turned out that I was not OK having that kind of job. And now that I have no "stable job" I feel more OK then I have ever felt while having those jobs. By the way, I hold no resentment towards those people in my life, I know that they did the best they could and I love them very much even though I don't agree with them.

So, the whole point of this writing is to say that knowing who you are is not some luxury that we can do when everything else is taken care of. On the contrary, I believe that knowing who you are is a prerequisite to everything else. What my own life is showing me is that we are not meant to build our lives from prescriptions of society and culture, we are meant to create our lives from who we are. And if that statement rings some bells for you, take some time to contemplate these questions:

Who are you?

What is important to you?

Why is it important? Go deep with the WHY until you have bodily response.

Once you know some of your "why's" work on meeting those needs, make it a priority to connect yourself with those energies and watch your life change for better.

With love,
​Nataliya

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