Nataliya K

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Nov 22 • 4 min read

what to do when you are stuck


How ARE you?


How is your river of life flowing? Is the ride smooth, bumpy or somewhere in between? Or maybe it feels stuck all together?

I think we all get into those stages every now and then, it’s all part of it. As for me, at the moment I am so excited that I feel my whole body buzzing and I feel very inspired and optimistic. Yes, optimistic despite everything that is going on in the world.
All because I just got a major unstuck.


For quite a while I was feeling stuck. I was doing all the right things to the best of my ability but I still felt stuck. Stuck pretty much everywhere, in my business, in my relationships, in manifesting. It felt like energy was not there.

So, being a coach, I know the signs when it’s time to take a good deep inspection of my inner world. And I looked. I worked on releasing fear and anxiety, I looked into authenticity, I sat with my emotions, I asked questions, I gave myself space, I participated in courses, I took inspired actions and I still felt stuck!

So annoying and frustrating! I even wrote an angry letter, maybe more than one…. I sent one and didn’t send others (thank goodness!).


And then I got an epiphany.


What I thought was anxiety was actually shame in disguise. It was shame all along, hiding under all the anxiety.


I rolled up my sleeves, listened to it, I looked into the deep corners of my mind and dug out all the tools that I have for working with shame. I reached out to trusted people and asked to be witnessed. I dug for the truth.


Sure enough, once the truth revealed itself, things started to move again. The river of life got itself unstuck and pretty cool miraculous things started to happen again. Everything is shifting and rearranging itself without much of me pushing. And I sit here and say “thank you Universe, more of this please.”


I am writing to you to share this simple and yet profound message. If you feel stuck and you seem to be doing all the right things, maybe there’s some emotion sitting inside of you asking for your attention. Once you get to decode its message, it will start moving again. Remember, emotion = energy in motion. So, sometimes it’s just that simple. And hard at the same time because we are not taught to feel and decode our emotions.


To make it a little bit more real, here’s one of the examples that shame taught me.


It turns out that I was ashamed of being stupid. I wanted to be smart, be seen as smart and not be stupid or be seen as stupid.
OK. I started to ask myself questions. What does it mean to be stupid? What does it mean to be smart? I realized that it all depends on who is judging. The same revelation can be profoundly enlightening for some and profoundly dull for others. Therefore, it is like two sides of the same coin, or perhaps a spectrum that requires both ends of the range. And I, being human, I hold the potential to be both, to hold both, to exist in both.


Once I realized that, the charge dissipated, the energy started to flow again.


I am still in the process of decoding every single thing that shame has to offer me at this stage in my life, BUT, I can feel the powerful energy flow of what has been released.


People are reappearing, relationships feel more joyful, I am somehow able to do more things that bring me joy and money is flowing so much better without me doing anything different in the outside world.


It’s all wild and exciting. Here are a few real things that happened just in the past few days:

  • I am going to Spain in the spring. I wanted to go to Spain for many years now, but somehow my life was resisting it. I didn't have space and the ability to go. Now, all of a sudden, I booked my ticket using the points that I thought were expired.
  • I received an unexpected gift that is worth probably more than $1000 and it is super valuable to me.
  • Someone booked me to teach a class, it's super easy and I don't have to do any prep. Just show up, teach and get paid. Very fun. I didn't do anything at all to get this class, they reached out and all I had to do was to give them my price and availability.
  • My income tax got recalculated and I got a refund. I had no idea that was happening.
  • I went to a sauna with a friend last night. I know it sounds like a not a big deal, BUT, in my case it was the first time in years that I could go. The friend had invited me plenty of times, I just couldn't accept the invitation for many reasons. This time it was super easy and super fun.
  • People in the neighbourhood are all over sudden talking to me. Usually they just want to pet my dog and I am super happy to be in my own little world, but now they want to connect with me. It's kind of nice actually.


Thank you Universe! More of this please! :)


So if you are feeling struck, you ARE stuck. Trust the feeling. Trust yourself. And then, look inward and see what is holding you back, where the energy is not flowing. We are all made of energy and the energy is meant to flow, all of the energy - physical energy, mental energy and emotional energy. Sometimes we just need to move our bodies to get the energy flow again, sometimes we need to see where we are stuck in our thoughts and sometimes we need to move our emotions. It's all ok, there's nothing wrong.


I really, genuinely hope that this is helpful for you today.
And if you need help, please know that I am here for you.
Time to burn the rulebook and create the life that you always wanted.

Nataliya

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